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“The Preacher’s Wife”


The preacher’s wife, is one of the most precious on the face of this earth. There may be some confusion from time to time, on exactly who they are, and who they should be. I am blessed to be married to the best one on this earth. Here are some things that I have learned about the “Preacher’s Wife.”

 1.     She supports her husband (even when he isn’t spectacular)

I believe this applies to all preacher’s wives except for mine… because, I am always spectacular! (yea, right!) This may be one point that only a preacher will truly understand. When things are going great within your personal life and your ministry your wife is such a strong supporter. When things are not going so good. Maybe it is a struggle with an elder,deacon, parent, teen, or your sermons aren’t connecting the way you would like, or your bible classes seem to be suffering.. there is one who will always support, encourage, and pray with you. Your wife.

2.     She is “super mom” to her children.

I honestly do not know how she does it! Not only is she so encouraging and supportive, but she is the best mom I could ever ask her to be for our children! Some of you older preachers have seen this even more as your children have grown. My children are both still very young. But my wife has handled everything that has been thrown at her with grace.

3.     She is “slash”

You say what? What does “slash” mean? Well, simply put, she is a dedicated wife/ loving mother/ camp counselor/ bible school teacher/ ladies day organizer/ ladies day speaker/ keeper of the home/ student of the Bible/ co-VBS director/ co- LTC coordinator/ funeral meal contributor/ decorator/ so on and so on. (and no salary to compensate their efforts)

I want to be clear, I do not believe that all of the above things are the “Preacher’s wives” “Jobs” However, those things, and sometimes many more are expected out of the wives of the preachers. I want to say to all of the preacher’s wives, and to one very special one, THANK YOU! You, as the wife, are the rock, the support, the best friend, and the strength behind what we the preacher’s do! Without you, we could not be who we are. You make us look good, even when we make that job hard for you.

4.     She is a silent sufferer.

There has been much said, and much written about the struggles/trials that preacher’s face in their ministry. (side note: I believe the good far outweighs the bad! If not, I wouldn’t be a preacher!) But, I am afraid many times someone gets overlooked. The Preacher’s wife. When the sermon wasn’t a “home-run” she knows it, and she hears about it. When the church is not growing, she knows it, and she hears about it. When things are not done “the way they have always been done” she knows it, and she hears about it. When her husband feels broken, useless, in-effective, and worn out, she knows it, and she hears about it. All of this and many more are on her shoulders, along with the task of being a wife and a mother.

5.     She is sacrificial.

I believe that some of the biggest sacrifices have been made by preacher’s wives. Not only do they do things that shouldn’t be expected of them with a smile and a heart for God, but, they are willing to live a life in service to God, no matter what that means. They support their husbands and enable them to do all that they do.

6.     She is precious to the Lord!

The purpose of this writing is not to be negative. The purpose of this writing is to build up, edify, and encourage (1 Thess 5:11) a group of amazing women, who would never ask to be built up. Truth be told, there would not be great preacher’s without great wives.

Proverbs 31:10- “an excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels”

I am proud to say, that I, like many preachers, have found an excellent wife! One who is supportive, one who is loving, one who is more concerned that her children will be in heaven, than what name brands of clothes are on their back. I feel lucky and blessed!

Proverbs 31:30- “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised”

I am proud to say, I have found this wife. One who cares more for God, and for others than she does herself.

So many, have done so much. As I look at my wife, her love, her sacrifice, her devotion, I think of…

Proverbs 31:29- “Many women have done excellently, but you, surpass them all!”

“O God,

I thank you for your Son. I thank you for life. I thank you for giving me all things that I need. Father, I thank you for my wife. Without her, I could not serve you the way you want me to. I thank you for all of the Godly women that serve you daily. May we forever be mindful of them, and be thankful for them, forgive us father, for when we take them for granted. In Jesus name, Amen.”

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Posted by on May 29, 2012 in Uncategorized


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“Why Do I Preach?”

It has been my practice since entering ministry, to continually ask myself this question. I have seen many preachers lose their passion for God, and their focus in their ministry. Some it is because their love for God may not have been what is should have been in the first place. Others, it may be that family strain was more than they could handle, and more common still, the time demands, and “stress of the job” wear out some of the finest men of God, on this earth.

It has been my goal, along with my family, to continually evaluate, “What am I doing?” , “Why am I doing It?”, and “Do I Enjoy It?”

Because I am a preacher, I have come up with 3 reasons that I preach. This is not an all-inclusive list, I would simply call these the “Big 3.”


1.  Eternal Value.

I have spent 8 years in the construction business in some capacity (My dad was a self-employed carpenter = I was a carpenter) I also spent some time as a delivery boy/medical equipment technician while in college. Both of those Jobs taught me a lot. I will forever be grateful for the skills I have learned working with my dad for many years. It has already saved me a TON of money!

                As I look back upon how many cabinets, tables, chairs, desks, counter tops, and displays I helped assemble, sand, stain, or paint I realize that no matter how beautiful the furniture, It would never assist a soul in getting to Heaven. Regardless of the amount of apartments I helped to trim, hang doors, install shelving, install door knobs, towel racks, shower rods, and many other items, those things, regardless of how well placed they were, would never teach someone about Jesus.

        No matter how many hospital beds I helped assemble, oxygen tanks I picked up and dropped off, equipment I sanitized, power chairs I put together, and store rooms I organized, those items would never teach a precious soul about the sin in their life.

        I do not want to give the impression that these two jobs (along with thousands of others) are meaningless because they are not! But, I have never felt a sense of fulfillment in what I am doing more, than receiving a phone call at midnight from a person I have had a bible study with, saying “I’m ready to become a Christian!” Or that person who walks down the aisle, and says “You touched my heart today with God’s message, I need to repent, and I need your prayers.”

That little boy at camp who walks in the cabin on the first day in a bad mood, and I ask him, “What’s wrong buddy?” and he responds “I hate camp!” Only two evenings later, to walk up to me and say with tears in his eyes, “I want to know what God wants me to do.”

This, is one reason why I preach…

 2.  It Strengthens Me.


Maybe you have heard the old saying “if you really want to know a subject, teach it!” The saying is true. Being in a position of “teacher” and “preacher” being, someone that people come to for advice, and for prayers, and just searching for a listening ear. This makes me study and pray more than I ever would being in any other position.

When I see someone respond to the Gospel, it strengthens my hope. When I hear songs lifted in praise to our Father, It strengthens my spirit. When I receive a letter saying “Troy, your lesson that you delivered at________ has helped me more than you will ever know!” it strengthens my drive.

When I get to meet/visit with other ministers who are striving for the same thing, and working towards the same goal, it keeps me renewed. I am in ministry to help others get to heaven, but also, selfishly, because I am strengthened as well.

 3.  Legacy I Want For My Children.

There are many families today who have a strong legacy. There are also many families today who are ashamed of their “heritage.” As they begin to talk about their family, there is that one, or two, or three, or four, or… so people that they wish they could leave out of the equation.

        I have been blessed to come from a great family. My father is an honorable, Godly man who has taught me so much about life, and about being a dad. My mother is the perfect example of unconditional love and affection. My sister has more knowledge (about the scriptures, and 1,000 other subjects) than most people I know, and is sweet, caring, and a dedicated Christian, wife, and mother.

        I begin to think, what Kind of legacy do I want to leave for my children? What kind of legacy do I want to leave for my grandchildren? Nothing would make me more proud than to hear them when talking about me, describe me as, “A Preacher.” That is a category of great men, which I feel un-worthy to be counted among. But, still this is what I want for them. I want them to look at their dad, granddad, uncle, and so on, and say “he is a preacher” when asked why? I would pray they will respond, “Because, he loves Jesus!”

Romans 10:14- How then will they call on him in whom they have not believed? And how are they to believe in him of whom they have never heard? And how are they to hear without someone preaching?

Proverbs 27:17- Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.


Psalm 127:3-4-  Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth.


Posted by on May 25, 2012 in Uncategorized


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“Get a Life!”


We have all seen it. Those times that you are watching someone drive down the road, but they are not just driving, they are swerving everywhere! Why? Because they are also busy sending a text message.

We have watched as a couple (maybe even ourselves along with our spouse) are sitting in a quiet room, but saying nothing to each other as one has their laptop, and the other has their iPad.

We have watched as two people are sending text messages back and forth… While sitting mere feet from each other.

I recently had a teen share with me that she had sent more than FIVE THOUSAND text messages, within the span of 3 weeks! Curious, I checked my own. In the same span of time, I used 500 messages.

Then, finally, the most ridiculous site I have ever seen; I was at the zoo in Tulsa, Ok. I stood watching the elephants, they were feeding, and drinking. It was amazing to see them so close! Then I saw it, one of the workers was standing not 5 feet in front of the largest elephant, and you guessed it, texting. In my mind I was screaming, “Are you kidding me?!? You are standing face to face with one of the largest creatures on this earth, and you have your cell phone out sending a message!?”

I am not opposed to cell phones, I have one. I am not opposed to texting, I do it. I merely want to take a step back and ask the question; “How am I spending my time?”

Ephesians 5:16- “making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.”

Colossians 4:5- “Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time.”

On two separate occasions the apostle Paul had this message for the first century church, “Make the best use of your time” I must come clean. I am afraid that many times I am guilty of not making the “best use” of my time.

If you find it easier to text your spouse than talk to them face to face, it may be time to re-evaluate your time management as it relates to technology.

If you find yourself playing more “angry birds” than doing activities with others, re-evaluate.

If you find that you are sending 5,000 text messages every couple of weeks, re-evaluate.

If you find yourself texting a couple of feet in front of an elephant, RE-EVALUATE!

I have often wondered, (about myself, not just other people) why is it easier to text than talk? Why am I more comfortable, being absorbed into a tv screen, than conversation with an individual? Why… Is it so much easier to talk about sports than to talk about Jesus?

I believe Jesus has an answer for us.

Luke 6:45- “… Out of the a abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”

When I find myself not talking about Jesus, maybe, just maybe, I have not let Jesus in my heart.

When it is easier for me to engulf myself with all of my gadgets, than for me to study the Word, maybe, just maybe, I have a heart problem.

How is your heart? Heed Paul’s advice in 2 Thess 2:17- “..establish your hearts”

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Posted by on May 20, 2012 in Uncategorized


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“I Don’t Lie. I’m A Christian”



It was crunch time. I was just about to make my move, but before I did I looked my wife right in the eye (knowing she was intimidated by my go-fish expertise) and I said “Do you have any 5’s?” and before she had time to respond, I said, don’t lie to me! To which she simply responded, “I don’t Lie, I am a christian.” The moral of the story as you probably have already guessed is that she handed over her 5, thus sealing her doom and my victory 🙂

What a concept! 

I could not help but wonder, what our lives, the Lord’s church, and our world would look like today, if everyone took this very simple, basic stance.

  1. I don’t lie, I am a Christian.
  2. I don’t say harsh things, I am a Christian
  3. I don’t gossip, I am a Christian
  4. I don’t Watch shows that I shouldn’t, I am a Christian
  5. I don’t defile my body with drugs,alcohol, or sexual immorality, I am a Christian.

We are called to live a life that is so drastically different, than that of the world around us, that some might even say we are aliens Phil 3:20- “For our citizenship is in Heaven…”

  1. I love God, I am a Christian.
  2. I love people, I am a Christian.
  3. I study my Bible, I am a Christian.
  4. I seek lost souls, I am a Christian.
  5. I long to be with Jesus, I am a Christian.

Being a Christian is the best life to live! Let us live this life, in a way that Honors Him!

Romans 1:16- “For I am not ashamed of the Gospel…”

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Posted by on May 3, 2012 in Uncategorized


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